When I visited Wales in 1999, I bought a Welsh traditional lovespoon (below). A few years later, I added another one to my collection. The lovespoon is a wooden spoon decoratively carved; its history goes back to the mid 1600's. A young man would create it as a gift of love. Each spoon is decorated with a wide variety of symbols, and creating one would demonstrate that the young man had the skill to provide for a family. Each symbol on the spoon would have a specific meaning; bells for a happy marriage, a cross for blessed union, hearts for love, a horseshoe for good luck, a double spoon for togetherness, a lock for security etc... I instantly fell in love with a simple lovespoon with some hearts :)
- Good looks
- Good personality
- Well-educated (literacy and performance skill)
- Ability to be a good mother
The ideal husband possessed these qualities:
- Artistic ability
- Academic excellence
- Having promotion opportunities
- Good personality
It was likely that men were often surprised or disappointed in their woman because she wasn’t his type; after all, he can’t see her clearly until he met her in person - by candlelight or moonlight! It was a kind of blind date! He would have had to form a mental image of her. In the historical novel 'Tale of Genji', the chapter ‘Suetsumuhana’ describes how the woman Suetsumuhana was quite unattractive and extremely shy. The amorous prince Genji fell in love because of her beautiful voice and the way she plays the musical instrument - but when he saw her in person, he was surprised because she had a ugly hook nose and that of red with cold. Can you guess what happened next? Genji fell out of love and Suetsumuhana had a crush on him, but he suppoted her life by a feeling of pity.
|kai-awase (the illustratted story from 'Genji', the chapter ‘Suetsumuhana’)|
It's the toy that women in the court played with.
it was said that the shells were good for their marriage life,
because each shell has only one partner.
Although the styles of expression of love are different, I like to get in touch with the souls of ancient people through traditional things.